Living with XXY (Alone): Learning to Be Myself

Since 2020, awareness around neurodiversity has broadened. It’s no longer hidden behind clinical jargon or whispered confessions. More people now recognise that Autism exists on a spectrum that touches nearly everyone in some way. That shift has helped me drop the shame and instead embrace the idea that understanding ourselves is a strength, not a stigma.

After a dramatic shift back to single life, I’ve been rebuilding from the ground up — behaviour, mindset, and the way I live with and by myself.

It’s been a confronting yet liberating process, a kind of renovation of the soul where the walls of old habits are slowly being replaced with patience and self-acceptance.

These days, I read more about mindfulness, emotional awareness, and living with both XXY and Autism. What’s surprised me is how much calmer life feels now that I approach life with curiosity rather than criticism. The more I understand myself, the more tolerance I have — not just for my own quirks, but for everyone else’s too.

Today I updated my social-media bio to say “Living with XXY.” It’s not a badge of honour, nor a plea for attention — just honesty. Many won’t say it out loud, afraid it might be too much information. But for those who do, it often helps others take that same brave step.

These quotes remind me daily that perseverance, consistency, and a steady mindset matter more than perfection.

“Perseverance is not a long race; it is many short races one after the other.”
— Walter Elliot

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.”
— Winston Churchill

“Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success.”
— Albert Schweitzer

“The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack in will.”
— Vince Lombardi

Transparency has a way of clearing the fog for those still trying to find their path.

With these quotes helping me, this new chapter of my life is about rediscovery — accepting who I am, embracing the reality of living with XXY and Autism, and finding peace in my own company. Growth isn’t always neat, but it’s real. And sometimes that’s enough.

If you’re walking a similar road — learning to live with yourself, neurodivergent or not — start by sharing one truth about who you are today. It might just help someone else find the courage to do the same.