In 2016… Almost 10 years ago I said I’d been blogging online for 10 years — but it was actually longer than that. Way back in 1999, I was just jotting down thoughts and publishing them as separate pages on my Telstra personal page. Those pages don’t exist anymore. From memory, I then moved to... Continue Reading →
Grey Divorce is NOT Freedom When You’re The One Left Behind
Choosing separation is EASY; Living with the aftermath is Not Before anyone nods along too easily with the popular narrative around grey separation, it’s worth slowing the tape. This article by Spicy Auntie paints later-life divorce as a kind of moral awakening for women who are "finally choosing themselves". From where I stand, it often... Continue Reading →
One Big Room – Just the Way Life Should Be
This evening, on my walk home from my old house (~ the one where my separated-wife and our children still live) my thoughts drifted to the spaces that divide all of us. Walls and barricades, both physical and emotional, shape our conversations, our silences, even our memories. Somewhere between the streetlights and the cool night... Continue Reading →
A Message To Young Couples: Talk Often, Openly, & Honestly
If I could give one piece of advice to younger couples just starting out, it would be this: Talk. Talk about everything. Not just the big-ticket stuff like money, family, or plans for the future - include the small, awkward things too. The things that feel too petty or too complicated to bring up. Your... Continue Reading →
How I’m Approaching My Next Relationship
I’m confident there’ll be another relationship in my future. Not in a rushed or desperate way, just a steady belief that connection comes around again when you’re ready for it. And when it does, I’ll be walking into it with a clearer idea of what matters most. For me, that means keeping communication up front... Continue Reading →
If It Ain’t Broke – Change It Anyway!
Whilst watching a behind-the-scenes YouTube video about the Bond movie Casino Royale, one of the producers said a line that really stuck with me: “Many people say if it ain’t broke, don’t fix or change it. I say that’s a recipe for complacency — in everything we do in life.” It hit me hard in... Continue Reading →
3 Questions at Sunrise that Created my New Life
It’s a strange comfort, isn’t it? Living in a time where you can speak your thoughts out loud - messy, meandering, unfiltered - and have them typed out for you in seconds. No more scribbling on napkins or searching for pens that don’t work. You just speak, and there it is. Your truth, staring back... Continue Reading →
Letting Go: The Value of Decluttering My Life
A thought crossed my mind last night whilst listening to Jimmy Carr chatting with Stephen Bartlett about his reflections on life, particularly about all of us wanting more, yet less discontent in the moment, and enjoying the moments we have the chance to live. A few months ago, after a life-changing moment, I culled over... Continue Reading →
Rewriting My Life with Better Categories & NO Hashtags!
You may not have noticed: There are NO MORE TAGS on my blog. Yes - I deleted the lot. Why? Because most were words within the article - which effectively made them duplicates, therefore redundant. What replaced them? Just honest categories that represent where I’ve been - and where I’m going now that I am... Continue Reading →