Choosing separation is EASY; Living with the aftermath is Not Before anyone nods along too easily with the popular narrative around grey separation, it’s worth slowing the tape. This article by Spicy Auntie paints later-life divorce as a kind of moral awakening for women who are "finally choosing themselves". From where I stand, it often... Continue Reading →
Buying Cool Merchandise to Support My Radio Program!
This week brings an improved version of an illustration, created especially to fund and support my new program All Aussie Artists. My radio show - broadcast every Tuesday night from 6pm to 8pm on Kangaroo Island’s 5KIxFM90.7 Community Radio Station - is all about giving homegrown musicians a proper spotlight, and building a playlist that... Continue Reading →
10 Suitable Lights for Solo Accommodation
Recently, whilst shifting into 'solo accommodation', a realisation struck: I don’t own a single side lamp. Not for my desk, not for the lounge. So, naturally, I fell into the rabbit-hole of a late-night Google search - and here are the results, displaying quite a few floor and table lamps that peaked my interest! Lighting... Continue Reading →
One Big Room – Just the Way Life Should Be
This evening, on my walk home from my old house (~ the one where my separated-wife and our children still live) my thoughts drifted to the spaces that divide all of us. Walls and barricades, both physical and emotional, shape our conversations, our silences, even our memories. Somewhere between the streetlights and the cool night... Continue Reading →
I Finally Return to Vlogging!
The spark is finally back: My vlogging journey has been reinvigorated, lit by transformation and creative fire. Why/How? My personal life has recently shifted in unexpected ways, and the the world around us has had some massive upheavals. Consequently I refocused my blogging mid 2025 to write about those subjects. Yet I’ve wanted to return... Continue Reading →
A Message To Young Couples: Talk Often, Openly, & Honestly
If I could give one piece of advice to younger couples just starting out, it would be this: Talk. Talk about everything. Not just the big-ticket stuff like money, family, or plans for the future - include the small, awkward things too. The things that feel too petty or too complicated to bring up. Your... Continue Reading →
Living with XXY (Alone): Learning to Be Myself
Since 2020, awareness around neurodiversity has broadened. It’s no longer hidden behind clinical jargon or whispered confessions. More people now recognise that Autism exists on a spectrum that touches nearly everyone in some way. That shift has helped me drop the shame and instead embrace the idea that understanding ourselves is a strength, not a... Continue Reading →
How Pseudostralian are Your Language Skills?
As I am now a 55+ year old, I am enjoying reading blogs by equally impressive people of a similar age. My current favourite site to read is https://greymatter.gallery/ . Thanks to one of my oldest friends (not her years alive; our years knowing each other!) Charlie Helen Robinson, I have recently read an article... Continue Reading →
How I’m Approaching My Next Relationship
I’m confident there’ll be another relationship in my future. Not in a rushed or desperate way, just a steady belief that connection comes around again when you’re ready for it. And when it does, I’ll be walking into it with a clearer idea of what matters most. For me, that means keeping communication up front... Continue Reading →