Recently, I asked ChatGPT to talk about a subject it’s deeply invested in – itself. What came back wasn’t flashy or self-important, but calm, measured, and quietly impressive. It described artificial intelligence as the craft of teaching machines to think, learn, and decide in ways that echo human reasoning. No hype. No doom-saying. Just a... Continue Reading →
Grey Divorce is NOT Freedom When You’re The One Left Behind
Choosing separation is EASY; Living with the aftermath is Not Before anyone nods along too easily with the popular narrative around grey separation, it’s worth slowing the tape. This article by Spicy Auntie paints later-life divorce as a kind of moral awakening for women who are "finally choosing themselves". From where I stand, it often... Continue Reading →
One Big Room – Just the Way Life Should Be
This evening, on my walk home from my old house (~ the one where my separated-wife and our children still live) my thoughts drifted to the spaces that divide all of us. Walls and barricades, both physical and emotional, shape our conversations, our silences, even our memories. Somewhere between the streetlights and the cool night... Continue Reading →
A Message To Young Couples: Talk Often, Openly, & Honestly
If I could give one piece of advice to younger couples just starting out, it would be this: Talk. Talk about everything. Not just the big-ticket stuff like money, family, or plans for the future - include the small, awkward things too. The things that feel too petty or too complicated to bring up. Your... Continue Reading →
Living with XXY (Alone): Learning to Be Myself
Since 2020, awareness around neurodiversity has broadened. It’s no longer hidden behind clinical jargon or whispered confessions. More people now recognise that Autism exists on a spectrum that touches nearly everyone in some way. That shift has helped me drop the shame and instead embrace the idea that understanding ourselves is a strength, not a... Continue Reading →
How Pseudostralian are Your Language Skills?
As I am now a 55+ year old, I am enjoying reading blogs by equally impressive people of a similar age. My current favourite site to read is https://greymatter.gallery/ . Thanks to one of my oldest friends (not her years alive; our years knowing each other!) Charlie Helen Robinson, I have recently read an article... Continue Reading →
How I’m Approaching My Next Relationship
I’m confident there’ll be another relationship in my future. Not in a rushed or desperate way, just a steady belief that connection comes around again when you’re ready for it. And when it does, I’ll be walking into it with a clearer idea of what matters most. For me, that means keeping communication up front... Continue Reading →
If It Ain’t Broke – Change It Anyway!
Whilst watching a behind-the-scenes YouTube video about the Bond movie Casino Royale, one of the producers said a line that really stuck with me: “Many people say if it ain’t broke, don’t fix or change it. I say that’s a recipe for complacency — in everything we do in life.” It hit me hard in... Continue Reading →
From “Bạn khỏe không, bạn ơi?” to “How are ya mate?”
I recently offered to help a new Vietnamese friend with her English. Simple enough, right? As soon as the words left my mouth, I realised I might’ve stepped into something bigger than I expected. This is going to be a journey filled with confusion, cultural curve-balls, and the occasional case of mutual head-scratching. While I’ve... Continue Reading →