Worldly Parenting Wisdom #1

Real change begins at home, and it’s there that we teach our children the true meaning of partnership.

By embracing the essence of love and cooperation in our relationship, we’re setting a powerful example for the next generation. Together, we can make the world a better place, one loving relationship at a time.

I’ve come to appreciate that I’m not a mere “helping hand” at home; I’m an integral part of it. When my wife takes on one of the many , I make sure to express my gratitude genuinely.
I don’t just say, “Thank you.”
I go beyond that with words like, “Wow, sweet-heart! You’re amazing!”
Because that’s exactly how I feel. The clutter and mess affects me as much as it affects my lovely wife (and our two growing Autistic sons), and I’ve embraced that reality. It’s about being an equal partner in maintaining our shared space.

I’ve never held the old beliefs regarding husband/wife roles in the family home. I learnt from my own parents to praise and appreciate my wife just as I would like to be praised – with the same intensity and sincerity. We’re companions, not guests in each other’s lives. We don’t just eat, sleep, and satisfy our needs; we actively engage and participate in every aspect of our shared life.

• When it comes to cooking, I’ve realized that it’s not about lending a hand; it’s about fulfilling a basic human need – nourishment. I cook not only because I want to eat but because I want to share this fundamental act of care and sustenance with my wife.
• The same principle applies to doing the dishes. It’s not about helping; it’s about taking responsibility for the dishes I use. The act of washing up becomes a shared experience, reinforcing our bond.
• Laundry, too, isn’t her task; it’s a shared duty. I don’t “help” with it; I participate because it’s our clothes, our kids’ clothes – our life.
• Parenting is another realm where I’ve recognized the importance of being a true partner. I’m not there to “help” my wife with the kids; I’m the father. Their upbringing is a shared responsibility, and I’m fully committed to being an active, loving parent.

Quite simply, my wife and I are not just two individuals living under the same roof; We are a team, in every sense of the word. It’s not about helping with household chores; it’s about sharing our responsibilities and joys in a profound way.