12 Ways to Transform Your Subconscious Mind for Success

I recently found myself trapped in a relentless cycle of negativity, self-deprecation, and an overwhelming inability to genuinely feel good about myself. Each day seemed like an uphill battle against my own thoughts and beliefs. I knew how and why I had spiraled into this disheartening state, but for the longest time battled to remedy the issue.

Thankfully one day very recently, amidst the darkness of self-doubt, I felt a realisation that I felt could reshape my entire perspective on life and would definitely help me escape the foreboding darkness I was experiencing.

It was a sudden realization that I held the power to break free from the shackles of negativity and rewrite the narrative of my self-worth.

I discovered (thanks to my kids questions) how awesome the human brain is – and how much effort it is actually putting in to steer my life. Because, and this is the kicker, our brain only does it’s thing if the evidence is real. It has to see proof of an improvement, of the good life you are creating – before it does any of this.

When it sees you acting on the positivity you are conjuring, ONLY THEN does it help regulate your body to keep doing this, to extend into your thoughts and beliefs. So our brain reinforces the mantras we say to yourselves. ACT LIKE THE PERSON YOU SAY YOU WANT TO BE as Mel Robbins says.

But what I managed to overlook is that my brain doesn’t just regulate the body; it extends its reach into my thoughts and beliefs, helping to nurture the seeds of success, happiness, and personal growth that I put into motion. My brain doesn’t make all that happen, but it does help shape it, reinforce it and keep the your subconscious going strong.

Wow. Tricky. I am listening to Mel Robbins whilst I write this, as it flows out of my fingers! So let’s keep going.

This is some of the practical steps I am putting into my life, all to help reshape my subconscious mind become an ally and asset.

1. Embrace the Possibility of Change

It took a long time to realise that the initial step towards significant transformation in my life is the embrace of change itself. Literally a leap into the unknown, a willingness to explore the uncharted territories of potential. I learned that the key here is to open the door to possibilities, to test the waters and see what could unfold. Finding new focus, taking on new hobbies and habits, each of these can help me transform, to change or to engage in purpose.

2. Grant Yourself Permission to Succeed

Rather than adhering to outdated narratives that I thought were dictating my journey, I am now rewriting my inner script. Rather than waiting for some distant moment in the future to grant me happiness, success, or fulfillment, I am giving and granting these permissions to myself today.

I have declared, out loud to the bathroom mirror: “I allow my life to be good,”, thereby liberating myself from the constraints of feeling guilty about goals I didn’t achieve or complete. They don’t matter anymore. I realise it’s important to break free and embrace a life that’s whole, joyous, healthy, and purposeful.

3. Don’t Let Others Cast Shadows of Doubt

When you share your achievements with others, take note of their reactions. Those who are content with their own lives will likely celebrate your successes, whilst those facing their own challenges may project their fears onto your journey.

Remember, their responses are more a reflection of their own experiences and perceptions than a judgment of your capabilities. Don’t let other, even family, impact on your beliefs. Very very important!!

4. Surround Yourself with Positivity

Infuse your daily surroundings with positivity and hopefulness. Keep a bottle of clean water in the fridge, change your morning alarm to read “CONGRATULATIONS!!,” and make sure the objects you encounter most frequently inspire positivity. Attach motivational notes to your workspace can help, and curate your social media feed to uplift and motivate you, not bring you down. Don’t search for what’s bothering you, search for ways to transform your life into what you want it to be. Make your news-feed a source of inspiration and growth, allowing it to amplify your sense of self-worth.

5. Speak of Success as a Present Reality

It’s taken too long to realise that shifting my perspective from seeing success as a distant future destination to now viewing it as an ongoing journey.

Instead of saying, “I hope to achieve that someday,” I am now saying , “I’m actively planning how to make it a reality at this moment.” Discovering that happiness and success aren’t elusive was a breakthrough for me; they are now within my grasp!

6. Visualize Your Dreams

This is a fun one. Bringing my few aspirations to life, start by creating a clear mental image of what you desire. Whether I am journaling my thoughts, creating yet another digital compilation, or window washing, I love seeing the world I want, the goals I want to achieve, and the life I want to have.

Seeing the future I can have is awesome, but working on the ways to get them makes it all the worthwhile.

7. Identify Your Inner Resistance

I still find myself holding back from pursuing hobbies I love, yet have learn its due to conflicting beliefs within my subconscious mind. I am forever identifying each of the reasons to overcome this resistance, and asking why procrastination or fear-of-success might trigger my inner-resistance. Addressing these concerns is helping me to move forward.

8. Craft a Life Master Plan

Many people set rigid five or ten-year plans, focus on identifying your core values and life’s ultimate purpose. Yet this isn’t the only way to go. Rigidity means that when it fails, you feel like a failure.

I suggest, and only because it works for me: Craft a master plan that allows for multiple paths when it might fail. Because life isn’t perfect – yet it is your life. So ask yourself what you aspire to achieve during your lifetime and the legacy you want to leave behind.

Once you’ve pinpointed these fundamental values, make decisions that align with your authentic self and long-term aspirations. It sounds simple, it is simple, and particularly in this era. Because everything you need and want is at your fingertips. Both on the internet and in books in most library’s.

9. Start a Gratitude Journal

A while back I started an extra online journal, keeping my name off it, and it was pure negative. I thought it would release my feelings. Instead, it hyper-focused my thoughts, my beliefs, and the way my life was. It even had related images which I had spent hundreds of hours creating.
In a moment of self-reflection, I realised how horribly wrong that journal was. I deleted all of it, even the images from my computer. All gone. The memories have been removed, and I have moved on.

This journal you are reading, these articles are the real me, the me I want to be going forward. It constantly helps me to shift and improve my mindset from one of constant desire to a sense of contentment whilst still getting better and to keep going.

10. Ask, Even When You Expect Rejection

As an experienced door to door salesman during the 1990’s, I can testify this works.
Even now, as a professional window washer, it works. I have been washing windows and seen the house next door is dirtier. So I find those words within me, sigh heavily (to get some oxygen into my blood stream and to ensure the butterfly in your stomach is alive), then approach that front door. I sincerely offer my services, saying I am available next week. Does that work for you? Sometimes it is no, but rarely a firm no. I smile, and hand them a business card (or put it into their letterbox) and say have a great day. Even if it’s a rainy day. I may never see them again. But I have done one thing: I made them smile. I make sure of that.

Don’t hesitate to ask for what you want, even if rejection appears imminent. Whether it’s requesting a higher fee for your services or offering your time, take the initiative. Over time, persistence pays off, and someone will eventually say yes.

11. Release Attachment to the “How”

Whilst some days you say you don’t feel like doing anything, life often surprises us with unexpected opportunities and outcomes. Stay open to potential paths and unforeseen possibilities.
That’s all I am going to say here. I have more planned for this subject in an upcoming blog (and vlog!)

12. Surround Yourself with Allies

This is most important. Surround yourself with people who either share your energy, share your ambition, share your will to survive in the tough times you believe you are having.
Also spend actual time with people where you can offer support. Share the passion and you will create a circle of people on successful paths. Not just paths where you stop occasionally to stare at the flowers, but paths where you planted the flowers and you’re trying to sell them. OK, that’s hypothetical.

Awwright, that’s enough.

There’s more ways, but these are all the ways I am training my mind to be better, to do more, to become a better self, and to have better success in all the things I want to do in life.

It’s simple, but not easy, yet can be done.