This evening, on my walk home from my old house (~ the one where my separated-wife and our children still live) my thoughts drifted to the spaces that divide all of us. Walls and barricades, both physical and emotional, shape our conversations, our silences, even our memories. Somewhere between the streetlights and the cool night... Continue Reading →
A Message To Young Couples: Talk Often, Openly, & Honestly
If I could give one piece of advice to younger couples just starting out, it would be this: Talk. Talk about everything. Not just the big-ticket stuff like money, family, or plans for the future - include the small, awkward things too. The things that feel too petty or too complicated to bring up. Your... Continue Reading →
How I’m Approaching My Next Relationship
I’m confident there’ll be another relationship in my future. Not in a rushed or desperate way, just a steady belief that connection comes around again when you’re ready for it. And when it does, I’ll be walking into it with a clearer idea of what matters most. For me, that means keeping communication up front... Continue Reading →
My Life with XXY
Not Broken, Just Wired Different I want to put this here, in my own words, for those who might need to hear it. At age 44, I was diagnosed with Klinefelter syndrome (XXY). It all started with one simple, honest question from my then-wife: “Why can’t we have kids?” That led to tests, those tests... Continue Reading →
25 Articles About Being a Parent, Partner, and Provider
These 25 articles are more than just entries in a blog – they’re footprints in the sand along the journey of my life up to this point, marking moments of love, loss, growth, and grit. Written across two decades, each piece captures the evolving story of what it means to be a parent, a partner,... Continue Reading →
Mindful, But Not Sorry – Embracing My True Self
As I head into 2025, reflecting on a year full of ups and downs, I’ve learned some valuable lessons. Yet the most important one is this: Vulnerability isn’t about winning or losing – it’s about showing up, being authentic, and allowing yourself to truly be seen. That’s something I’ve come to appreciate, whether I’m volunteering... Continue Reading →
Embracing Imperfection & Unconditional Support
THE GREATEST GIFT: UNCONDITIONAL LOVE AND ACCEPTANCE Falling in love? There’s nothing like it - everything becomes brighter, more exciting. When you’re with someone special, life just feels… better. Unconditional love? That’s a whole other level! It frees you. Instead of trying to mold your partner into something they’re not, you’re able to focus on... Continue Reading →
Emotional Integrity: A Deeper Kind of Faithfulness
I do a lot of reading about issues close to my heart. This article says a lot about what's going on inside my heart, my head, and my life. Read into it as you like and will. I have realised over the last few years that emotional integrity is about what you do - or... Continue Reading →
Wants, Needs, Desires & Expectations in Love
I want to share some crucial lessons that I wish I had known at a younger age, yet thankful I have learnt since then. Yes, I am talking to my younger self, prior to meeting the most beautiful woman in my life to whom I still enjoy being married: Understanding wants, needs, desires, and expectations... Continue Reading →